This blog to gain readers and followers?

I opened this blog – https://loveispushingupdaisies.blogspot.com with the title Love is Six feet under or To Date or Not to Date? –  on the 14th of July 2022. 

Initially, I wanted to call it: "Cupid is defunct" or "Eros is extinct". 

I have been thinking about opening this sort of blog and writing about dating for a long, long time. 

I actually set up quite a few, but never wrote anything on them, therefore deleted them when Blogspot stopped me from setting up another blog 'cause I had too many!! 

Too many = more than 80. 

Why do I want to write about it? 

I mean, there are countless blogs and websites that discuss this subject in depth. By professionals. 

Why me too (and without being a professional? 

Because I have been on "A" dating site for 9 months or so and witnessed several "things" that I thought were kind of. ..  odd  – to say the least – and decided to mention them to some of those who already follow me. 

"Odd" for me, a person who doesn't know much about "modern dating". 

I am explaining my decision to those who might have had the link from me and concluded that the reason I am on a dating site is to amass readers and followers. 

Because they saw it very often. 

It is true that I have given the link (unprompted) to some of those with whom I converse (or conversed) on "this" dating website. It does have a name, the dating site, but I would rather keep it to myself. At least, for now. 

Dear stranger, man, in this case, who landed here upon my invitation, I am not on the dating website to enlarge my readership or to gain any sort of followers. Not in the slightest. 

Do you know why? 

Because men, those on dating sites I mean, usually, don't read. 

If you have the link is because I thought you might be interested. 

If you are reading, it means that I trusted you would get here due to your interest in getting to know me. 

I am laughing like crazy because 99.99 of those I have (potentially) given the link to, not only that they didn't click on it, but completely dismissed "courting" me. 

"I knew it! I knew she is here for the same reason that every other girl or woman is here: to gain something. Followers on social media or ... worse.." 

You couldn't be further than the truth. 

Men don't read and men do not want to commit to anything, not even to click on a link. 

The sad part is that those with who I convey on this dating site know that I am a writer and a blogger, but none of them ever asked to see one of my blogs. 

None. Not once. 

That is the reason I would not meet anyone in person. 

They are not interested in getting to know me, they are interested in finding a woman to sleep with.  

I have nothing against that. 

Except, I am not a regular woman. Sex is secondary... or even further, a lot further than secondary for me. 

Before being a woman, I am a writer. 

It doesn't make sense, does it? 

Well, if you rolled your eyes... then, I got you! 

I have got no hope to meet a man on a dating site. 

I have never had. 

Sorry, I meant, I have no hope to meet "The One" on a dating site (or in real life for that matter). Someone I am compatible with. No. That is... 0.01% possible and 99.99% impossible. 

0.01% is still something, but not much. 

So, why am I still on that dating site? 

Field research. 

And some men are so, so nice. Not many, but some. 

I chatted with some of the sweetest men that I have ever had the luck to know. 

I am interested in profiles. The chatting that comes after the opening is often incredibly shallow and just a waste of time. 

I have, however, learned quite a lot from some of those trivial chats. 

Mainly is that men would like to sleep with a woman without commitment. Any woman. But what they are looking for is a single woman (no baggage), happy, wealthy, good-looking, fit and lustful. 

Lustful is the most important attribute. 

What do they have to give in exchange? 

Good question. 

It depends on who you ask. 

Some of these men will tell you that they have a lot to give but they wouldn't be able to mention more than one thing: their "little" friend. Pardon, their "massive" friend – 14 inches or whatever – as they refer to it. 

I don't even know what that means. I use the metric system and I have never been interested in that anyway. 

Other men would list you loads of things they have to offer, but that's because they overestimate themselves. 

PS 

I do not like chatting or IM. I don't have the time for that. 

When I say that I "chatted" is that I exchanged a couple (or a few) of messages.